Today I started thinking about religion. I hope in that writing this entry I will get some good comments and not be judged. This has been a big topic in my relationship with my husband. I am Jewish and he is a Christian. He is a lot more religious than I am and goes to church every sunday. I am not that religious and don’t really like going to religious services of any kind. However, I was brought up Jewish and I identify with it and will never convert away from it. I have told my husband that and he is ok with it even though he wishes that I was christian.
When we were dating we used to go back and forth on the subject. He didn’t want to get involved seriously with someone who wasn’t christian. We broke up once and weren’t sure if we had a future. In the end we decided to stay together because we couldn’t imagine life without each other. Things have been great since we got married, but I forsee some issues when we do have kids.
We have been talking about this our whole relationship so that it’s not just something we start to argue about when it happens. He wants our children to be bar/bat mitzvahed as do I. However, he is worried that that process will mean that they don’t go to church for a large chunk of time. I’m nervous for the scheduling since they both have aspects sunday mornings and I don’t know if administrators will deny our children into one sunday school or the other because we are also teaching them about another religion. I also don’t want to overload them and make them totally confused. We just want to expose them to both religions and teach them what mommy believes and what daddy believes, that they have some similar aspects, and let them go with what they feel comfortable with when they are old enough to decide.
Do you guys know anyone who has had to deal with anything similar? Have any suggestions? My thought this morning was to let our children do the church thing with they are younger and supplement at home with jewish books/songs etc with an occasional friday night service. Then when they get older and get ready to go to hebrew school they go to that and supplement with christian things like a small group or some sort of other group at a different time than sunday mornings. That was just my thought of the day, our whole arrangement could totally change. I guess we will just have to see how it all plays out. It’s complicated, but hopefully everything will be ok in the end.
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